The definition of rape culture is “the belief that victims have contributed to their own victimization and are responsible for what has happened to them.”( https://www.unh.edu/sharpp/rape-culture) While it can be true in some situations, it has become just another favorite buzzword used to promote the radical feminists idea of a “perfect society”. Which of course is nothing but a mess of Marxism, Communism, Freemasonry and total eradication of the family. So instead of just crying, “RAPE CULTURE!!” every time something happens that we don’t like, here are a few ways we as women can actually combat the “rape culture” as feminists like to say, where “women are objectified, not taken seriously, degraded and held back from their true potential.”
Move magazines out of family-friendly stores.
Magazines that proudly promote “100 best sex tips”, “lose those ugly stretch marks”, and telling women what the “perfect body” looks like have no place in family-friendly stores. Parents should at least have the right to vote on whether or not certain magazines be placed in plain sight in stores.
Children do not need to see this garbage, and if they are right in the check out aisle, where else are we supposed to look?
Magazines such as:
- Cosmo, which is listed on endsexualexploitation.org in their 2018 Dirty Dozen, saying, “This staple of the supermarket checkout lane is a visually hypersexualized and verbally pornographic magazine. With inexhaustible predictability, Cosmopolitan accosts shoppers with covers pronouncing dozens of recycled “sex tricks” and flaunting an endless supply of hypersexualized cover models. As for Cosmo’s content, it relentlessly glamorizes things like public, anal, group, and violent sex to its young female readership.”
- Women’s Health, (almost always features a woman clad in a bikini, telling women what a ‘fit & perfect’ body supposedly looks like) Dailylife.com.au commented on Women’s Health magazines, “Women’s health magazines effectively swap skinny celebrities for skinny “average” women; promote expensive runners and workout gear instead of stilettos and designer dresses; encourage just as much, if not more, dieting and food obsession; and push women to feel just as guilty as ever about their less-than perfect, non-bikini clad, wonderfully diverse bodies.”(1)
- “fat shaming” magazines, showing disturbing images of celebrities cellulite and saggy parts which make one think (uhm… who would think of taking pictures like this of people?)
With obesity having its own set of issues it is certainly a welcome topic, but the media have taken it way over the top. Just because a person is fat doesn’t mean they are of less value or have less dignity than a person who is in shape. Access to healthier food, taking a good walk every day, cutting the sugar, and keeping tabs on your health with your doctor are valid and NEEDED topics… but what magazines are promoting today is just nonsense.
- Then, of course, there is the Sports Illustrated… Famous Sports Team Cheerleaders… women in ads & commercials…
… sexploitation much?
It would probably be “too much to ask” to try and shut down the magazine companies, but stores like Stop & Shop, Walmart, Price Chopper and others that see many families and children should at least move them away from the check out stations.
(Good news; Walmart is scrapping Cosmo, more information here)
No one needs to see these ridiculous headlines & photos and parents who do not want their children exposed to such propaganda that exploits women shouldn’t have to treat shopping like walking through a minefield.
Do the right thing and complain to the manager; every little bit helps, and it certainly will do more for women’s rights and equality than dying your unshaven armpits pink…*shudder*
Contraception is like telling a man:
“You can do whatever you like to women with no more consequences to you.”
“You can cheat on your wife without consequences.”
“You can use your wife like a prostitute instead of a … ”
“Women are only for pleasure.”
Contraception is like telling a woman:
“You are only worth sex and nothing else.”
“What your body can do differently (carry children) is bad, get rid of it. Hide it.”
“You should be ashamed that having sex can get you pregnant. Fix that problem.”
“Motherhood is not something precious, it is something to avoid.”
“The ability to carry children is a problem; it gets in the way of men using you for sex and nothing more.”
“What your body does naturally is a problem, take this unnatural ‘remedy’ to ‘fix it’. Oh, by the way, this remedy can kill you, make you permanently barren, give you cancer, and so on.”
Contraception should be the Feminist movements number one target to abolish; It exploits women by targeting her fertility (which IS a gift, it IS natural, and it is NOT something that should be punished or topped off with chemicals to “stunt”) and harming her body in the name of “consequence-free sex.”
Aside from the fact that it allows women to be used as objects and completely degrades the marital act from its proper use, hormonal birth control has many serious health consequences for women.
Hormonal birth control fiddles with nature; By ejecting the fertilized egg (the newly formed human being) from the woman’s body, the rest of her body must cope with the unnaturalness of the situation. It had just begun to prepare to carry a child to term, and now, with no child, the body is left in a complicated state. RTL.org states, “When a woman becomes pregnant her body begins to go through biological changes in order to prepare for childbirth. Increased levels of estrogen during pregnancy cause a woman’s breasts to enlarge with cells that will eventually allow for milk production. By the time of a full-term birth these cells have differentiated into milk-producing tissue and have stopped multiplying. These cells are resistant to cancer because they have been differentiated into a specific type of cell and the cell multiplication process has been stopped.
If a woman has an abortion before her 3rd trimester of pregnancy, her breasts are left with more undifferentiated cells that are more vulnerable to cancer than if she had never been pregnant.
What about miscarriages?
Researchers have found that most miscarriages don’t raise the risk of breast cancer because these pregnancies don’t produce enough estrogen, which is the driving factor behind the proliferation of undifferentiated, cancer-vulnerable cells.
What do the scientific studies show?
Fifty-eight out of 74 worldwide studies dating back to 1957 have shown that abortion increases a woman’s risk of getting breast cancer. Nineteen of the 24 studies done on women from the United States show an increased risk of breast cancer associated with abortion.(1)
One study which appeared in the International Journal of Epidemiology in 1989 and relied on New York state medical records reported that abortion increased a woman’s risk of getting breast cancer by 90%.(2)
In 1996, Dr. Joel Brind combined the statistics from 23 different worldwide studies and found a 30% increase of breast cancer risk among women who chose abortion after already giving birth and a 50% increase of breast cancer risk among women who chose abortion before giving birth.(3)
A study done on African-American women by researchers at Howard University showed that African-American women over 50 were almost 5 times more likely to get breast cancer if they had abortions compared with women who had never received an abortion.(4)
It is also universally recognized by experts in breast cancer that an early first full-term pregnancy lowers a woman’s risk of getting breast cancer. Another study published in the Lancet found that breastfeeding is another way women can lower their risk of breast cancer.(5) Women who abort their first pregnancy don’t get the protective effects of a first full-term pregnancy and don’t receive the protective effects of breastfeeding.” (2)
Dr. Lawrence Wilson clearly emphasized the devastating effects Birth Control has on women, “and include cancers, diabetes, strokes and heart attacks, just for starters. A number of women have also told me their personality changed on the pill, and they became more depressed.
The pill tends to raise a woman’s copper level, which is always bad for women, although some women today are so toxic and out of balance that they feel better with a higher copper level. I could go on for pages about the horrible side effects of the pill, patch and IUD (Mirena), as does the Physician’s Desk Reference and other medical reference textbooks.
Most of the time, I find, doctors and clinics like Planned Parenthood have little interest in informing women of the severe side effects of taking hormones found in the birth control pill, patch and IUD. I consider this criminal – far more so than what the media complains about with holistic practices and other things that yes, can harm people, but nothing like taking birth control pills for years.” (3)
The added synthetic hormones from The Pill can cause serious harm to the body; something just as simple as an imbalance of hormones can cause many issues, such as:
- Breast tenderness
- Fibrocystic breasts
- Weight gain especially in the abdomen, hips, and thighs
- Decreased libido
- Mood swings, PMS, depression
- Irregular cycles, heavy bleeding/painful periods
- Thyroid dysfunction mimicking hypothyroidism
- Gallbladder disease (4)
The NYTimes (surprisingly) published an article about “Birth Control (still) Linked to Breast Cancer”, at one point saying “for every 100,000 women using hormonal birth control, there are 68 cases of breast cancer annually, compared with 55 cases a year among nonusers.” (5)
Cancer.org also says the same, adding that “Taking birth control pills for 5 or more years might make you more likely to get cervical cancer. The longer you use them, the higher your risk. The risk tends to go back down over time when you stop taking the pills.” (6)
Complications of the IUD device are also a concern, many women have complained of “Pain and bleeding. Although infection and ectopic pregnancy cause the most serious IUD complications, bleeding and pain are the symptoms most often responsible for removing an IUD. An estimated 5% to 15% of women discontinue IUD use within 1 year because of these symptoms.” (source “Intrauterine Devices: Separating Fact From Fallacy , Magee-Womens Hospital, University of Pittsburgh School of Medicine DISCLOSURES Medscape General Medicine. 1996;1(1) “ (7)
There is some evidence that hormones in the birth control pill may change the cervix in ways that make it more susceptible to Chlamydia infections.
There is so much to be said about this issue that it would take a whole library of books to cover.
Fight the objectification of women in ads, commercials and movies.
If feminists were truly adamant about women not being objectified, they should start by attacking ads such as these, that are way too prevalent in society today….
When it comes to ads for cosmetics, perfume, you name it, women are never there just for their brains. Must they have a woman to model underwear in ads that amount to no more than soft-core pornography? Just five minutes into watching TV and there’s a woman showing the world how happy she is to be using deodorant, or that her underwear is super soft… how is this uplifting for women? How is this dignified? It objectifies women, and it’s just seriously embarrassing. If it wasn’t such a big deal it would be comedic.
Complaining about men and creating terms such as “mansplaining, manspreading & violent masculinity” will do nothing but give men more of a reason to disrespect us as women. When has calling names ever worked? Do we honestly believe that “punishing men” will somehow teach them to respect women? Instead; give them something to respect! Respect yourself first!
“It is unwarranted to regard women as inferior because feelings play a central role in their lives. If the feelings vibrating in their hearts are noble, appropriate, good, legitimate, sanctioned, and pleasing to God, then they are precious jewels in God’s sight.” — Alice von Hildebrand (8)
Respect yourself enough to:
- Realize the inherent dignity you have in your body, mind, and especially your soul. A woman who believes herself to be dignified would never tramp the streets topless or wearing a vagina costume. She treats herself better than that.
- Treat yourself like the precious gift you are, not by strutting around like the Queen of the World, but by acting like a dignified lady.
- Treat others with respect and compassion. This doesn’t mean becoming a doormat; It means treating others with kindness, and knowing when to walk away in charity.
- Know how to defend yourself; Everyone should know how to defend themselves against any kind of (real) abuse. Buy pepper spray, or a gun, and don’t let people walk all over you. Learn how to say no.
- Avoid making yourself into a puppet. You are not a Left, Right, or Middle; You are a human being, and if the group you belong to is promoting something dumb, just say no. If your feminist group says it’s a great idea to use your menstrual blood in an art project to “promote equality,” don’t be dumb. Just say no.
- Have a solid moral ground. Knowing exactly what is ok and what is not ok solves a ton of problems. And knowing exactly where you stand morally empowers you far more than dyeing your unshaven armpits.
Yes, I get it, there are a lot of pigs out there, but that doesn’t mean every single man is one. It means there are a lot of men who have no idea what it means to be a man and are making it really difficult for the real men out there.
Not every man who opens the door for you is trying to suppress some sort of “female empowerment” that you may or may not have; I promise. Sometimes, it just means there are men out there who think you deserve respect. Newsflash: door opening shows respect. Letting someone go first, shows respect. Think back to the days of Kings and Queens and this may widen your view a bit more on this issue.
“Man is characterized by his strength, his courage, his nobility; he’s meant to be chivalrous to protect the weak. The woman has something tender, she has empathy, she has a much easier time feeling herself into others. And so they have this complementarity, it is profound. ‘It is not good for man to be alone.’ In order to be complete, man needs a woman and a woman needs a man. Now this goes so far that the holiest priests I have met in my life, who have dedicated their lives to God and live in perfect celibacy, all have a very special devotion to the Holy Virgin and the Holy Virgin gives them what would be lacking if it was simply a development of male characteristics.” — Alice Von Hildebrand (9)
Repackaging the whole “equality” thing wouldn’t hurt either. Just in case no one noticed, men and women, are different. Physically, cognitively, heck even our cells are different. Tall and short people are not equal in height, but they are both equal in dignity, and this is exactly what the point is. Men and women are not THE SAME in many aspects, but they are both equal in dignity. The sooner we all learn this the better. It may just save us from some more women trying to punish men for sitting like a man.
Change your tune: Stop whining.
The idea that women need to demand respect by degrading themselves and other women is beyond pitiful and speaks of a serious mental problem:
- wearing menstrual blood as lipstick
- dying armpit hair to prove… something?
- using menstrual blood in an “art project”
- dressing up as a woman’s private parts in public to somehow “prove” women’s dignity and are worthy of respect.
- proclaiming their right to kill their own children
- complaining about how men sit…
- complaining about how men talk…
- being rude, aggressive, even violent to men who hold the door for them, or do any act of chivalry
- demeaning one of the most beautiful and unique parts of being a woman (childbearing/motherhood) to the point of complete repulsion of it
Women don’t NEED to go out of their way to violently somehow “prove” how much they are worth to society as a whole. A beautiful part of being a woman is the fact that, even if she isn’t in the spotlight, she can accomplish even more behind the scenes!
By supporting, encouraging, lifting up, giving hope and courage to those who may not have chosen the right paths without her aid.
By bearing and raising moral, courageous, heroic human beings who will eventually enter the world and rule it even after she is dead and gone. The legacy she leaves behind continues for generations upon generations. The mother has such power to instill great values and virtues into her children; the future citizens of society, more so than anyone else!
“One thing is certain: When the time has come, nothing which is man made will subsist. One day, all human accomplishments will be reduced to a pile of ashes. But every single child to whom a woman has given birth will live forever, for he has been given an immortal soul made to God’s image and likeness. In this light, the assertion of de Beauvoir that ‘women produce nothing’ becomes particularly ludicrous.” — Alice von Hildebrand (10)
By acting her part. by being the beautiful, dignified, blessed, and loved by God human being that she is, she can move mountains. By her inspirational attitude, character, words, maturity, simplicity, virtues, courage in all circumstances, administering the sick, abused, lonely, fallen & hopeless… by her modesty and humility,
It is said that you catch bees better with honey than you do with vinegar; No man in his right mind would want to truly honor, respect and love and woman who is vulgar, violent, in-your-face, and constantly demeaning his own dignity, trampling on his masculinity because it’s “not like her”, not respecting him while expecting him to respect her.
Scientifically, take a look at how important a solid, stable, loving and educational home life is for a child. To have a mother and father there for them, teaching them how to behave and live as moral and honorable people, loving them and listening to them is vital. This alone shows the importance of motherhood and the great responsibility a woman has!
Work for a Moral Society
“The tragedy is that after original sin all the beautiful, magnificent male qualities, such as strength, courage and virility and so on, degenerated into something that is unfortunately a horrible perversion: male brutality – you just need to read the newspaper to find out that day after day women are abused and battered by the activities of their boyfriends or husbands. On the other hand, the beautiful female characteristics of empathy and sweetness, the heart can degenerate into self-centeredness, pettiness, sentimentality, all sorts of distortions. Now when both are distorted, both of them need to be purified. And this is the unbelievable gift of the Roman Catholic Church. I’m a cradle Catholic, and day after day after day, I’m more grateful of the fact that ever since I was a child I have been given Catholic food.
For example, take the seven Sacraments, all of this struck me as a little girl, that every single problem, every single difficulty, has an answer through the Sacraments – through Baptism we are brought back in communion with God, in Confirmation we are strengthened, through the Holy Eucharist we receive the divine food that God, that Christ, promised to his disciples and gave at the Last Supper, through the Sacrament of Penance you can cleanse yourself of your daily sins and imperfections – for every single facet of human life you have divine help.” — Alice Von Hildebrand (11)
We cannot expect a society that is saturated with immorality to respect women. Neither can we expect a society that worships “consequence-free sex” to NOT objectify women (or men, for that matter). Most feminists believe that embracing themselves as beautiful and showing the world their bodies as much as possible will put a band-aid on Rape Culture….
Its obvious how well that worked out.
Man-shaming, “body positivity”, and more “manly women” in lead film roles will NOT stop Rape Culture. How could it? It’s like saying that shoving more garbage down a child’s throat cure it from eating too much bad food.
Conversely, would it work if we became doormats? Probably not.
To stop Rape Culture you must heal society from its immorality, and to do that you need to be able to make everyone in society a moral person. For everyone to become a moral person with a correct moral compass, a respect for humanity, dignity, honor, and honesty… everyone would have to become Christian.
A society that does not have a solid foundation in serious moral law has no hope of ever becoming peaceful, balanced, or honest.
There is no government, law, nuclear weapon or man-made device that can bring this about; only God can. Our Lord said to St. Faustina, “Mankind will not have peace until it turns with trust to My mercy.” (300) –Diary of St Faustina, Divine Mercy in my Soul.
Peace is not just the absence of war. Like a cathedral, peace must be constructed patiently and with unshakable faith. (12)
— St. John Paul II
Embrace your feminity
Alice von Hildebrand, Catholic Philosopher, Theologian & former Professor once said, “Unwittingly, the feminists acknowledge the superiority of the male sex by wishing to become like men.” (13)
Feminists have become viciously rabid when it comes to fertility. The gift of being able to conceive a human being has become wretched to them. Motherhood is cancer, and stay-at-home-moms are a lame inside joke.
Everything that women are, has become like a terrible disease in the mind of feminists. Most especially Motherhood. Motherhood (biological and spiritual) are some of the greatest and most beautiful parts of a woman yet it is attacked with such vigor one wonders about the Satanic roots of this hatred.
What of the woman who embraced her true nature? Her God-given calling? One that maintained a solid moral ground, embraced her dignity and worth, treasured her fertility, and followed her maternal instincts? These 36 women are only a few examples of the possibilities that lie in store for such a woman.
Will society keep bending, bowing and breaking to the illogical, anti-Christian ideology of radical feminism? Or will we as women begin to truly value the women God created us to be and begin changing society from within, by being true women?
The choice is ours.
(8) “The Privilege of Being a Woman” Alice von Hildebrand, Sapientia Press https://www.hfsbooks.com/books/the-privilege-of-being-a-woman-von-hildebrand/
(9) Dr. Alice von Hildebrand Interview – with Jim Havens http://catholicfamilymen.com/blog/seven-bold-insights-from-my-interview-with-dr-alice-von-hildebrand/
(10) “The Privilege of Being a Woman” Alice von Hildebrand, Sapientia Press https://www.hfsbooks.com/books/the-privilege-of-being-a-woman-von-hildebrand/
(11) Dr. Alice von Hildebrand Interview – with Jim Havens http://catholicfamilymen.com/blog/seven-bold-insights-from-my-interview-with-dr-alice-von-hildebrand/
(12) HOLY MASS OF PENTECOST HOMILY OF JOHN PAUL II Coventry, 30 May 1982
(13) “The Privilege of Being a Woman” Alice von Hildebrand, Sapientia Press https://www.hfsbooks.com/books/the-privilege-of-being-a-woman-von-hildebrand/